Loving A Love Partner Who Cheats On Us.

This is a difficult one for many. Some, however, are able quickly to move into that space of love again even if they choose not to continue the partnership. This is a test of our inner feelings of self-worth and security. It also tests how much we actually believe the spiritual truths concerning how our reality is created and what the nature of true love is.

The main obstacles to loving a partner who cheats on us or leaves us for another are the following beliefs.

a. The belief that our self-worth has in some way been diminished. This is not true. Our self-worth does not increase and decrease because someone chose to love us exclusively or not.

b. We are worthy only if there is at least one person who loves us exclusively and does not love anyone else in that way.

c. We are less secure without a love partner.

d. We have been dealt an injustice.

e. We will never find another person to love us in this way.

f. We will be alone and unhappy.

g. We will suffer this way in all future relationships.

h. We are not worthy of love or lucky in love.

This is a wonderful opportunity to free ourselves from all illusions that cause pain around this issue and connect to the following truths.

a. Everything that happens to us is exactly what we need in order to learn our next soul lesson.

b. Our self-worth is based on our spiritual self and not on how others behave towards us, or whether they prefer us to others or not. We cannot increase or decrease our self-worth. It is immutable.

c. True love wants the other to be happy in any way that person is guided to find happiness. If I truly loved my partner and he or she found more happiness elsewhere, then I would be happy for him or her. (That does not mean we have to share our partner - just let him / her go with love and best wishes - rather than with anger and hatred).

d. We are worthy of pure and lasting love exactly as we are and if that is beneficial for our growth process, we will have it soon.

e. I choose to forgive and love. That is better for me and all others.

We have dedicated a whole chapter on the issue of dealing with romantic rejection. If this issue is intense for you at this time, you may want to look at it now.

From the book "Love is The Choice"
by Robert Elias Najemy